Why Social Media Isn’t Your Therapist
Why do so many of us feel compelled to share our deepest, saddest feelings on the internet?
For validation?
For revenge?
For help?
Be honest—does it actually help?
I’m not here to blame social media. It’s just a tool. But how you use it? That’s where things go sideways.
Recently, I saw someone on my feed posting story after story about how “strong” they are despite being scarred by a past relationship. They talked about healing, getting rich, chasing dreams. Once in a while? Fine. If you’re an influencer? Expected.
But this was a regular 9-to-5 person using Instagram Stories like a personal therapist—one that doesn’t talk back.
I get it. They’re struggling. But is this really helping?
Let’s Be Brutally Honest
Imagine life as a real-world Squid Game. You’re out here broadcasting your vulnerabilities to an audience that isn’t necessarily rooting for you. Some people—the VIPs, the “game masters,” the ruthless ones—are watching and taking notes.
Why give your “not-so-well-wishers” your playbook?
Life Has Its Own Arenas
Think about the spaces you navigate every day:
- Dating
- The matrimonial circus
- Climbing the corporate ladder
- Starting a business
- Building or caring for a family
At least one of these, maybe all at once.
Now imagine posting about how devastated you were by your last breakup. What kind of impression does that leave on potential matches?
You Need a Friend to Say This
“Stop these one-sided social media rants. You’re not helping yourself. You’re just showing everyone you’re still living in the past.”
Want to vent?
Write in a journal. Call a friend. Cry into a pillow. Whatever works. Just stop shouting into the void of Instagram.
Silence Is Strength
There’s power in turning past mistakes into fuel. But that power comes from silence. From processing your pain—not performing it for likes.
If you’re constantly posting about how awful your boss is, but doing nothing to change the situation, don’t you want someone to say:
“Stop sounding like a resentful employee online. Move on. Level up.”
And if you’re pretending your toxic relationship is perfect for social media? That’s even worse. Who are you really trying to fool?
Stop Feeding the Wrong Audience
Why do you need random validation for your struggles?
Why are you giving the world your weakness on a platter?
The world isn’t always kind. Why hand it ammo?
Sure, post the good stuff. Celebrate wins. Share energy. But sad posts? Endless emotional rants? What exactly are you trying to invite?
Move in Silence. Grow in Power.
There’s a difference between quietly processing your pain to grow stronger—and marinating in it for an audience.
If you want to truly win, stop announcing your next ten moves.
Speak of your past wins with calm pride.
But work on your present battles in silence.
Because nothing earns louder applause than success you didn’t feel the need to announce.
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